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britnkaysmemaw2
04-06-2011, 05:56 PM
Ok, give us your advice on how to handle a toddler who is starting to bite. He got his first write-up at Day care yesterday because he bit a little girl on the fingers. Tonight he was just playing but bit me and then bit Mommy when she came to pick him up.
Being Foster children, we are limited in what kind of punishment we can do.
The Doctor advised to keep a peeled onion handy and stick that in his mouth when he does it. That seems a bit drastic to me!
Any advice on what you do/did with your little ones during this stage????

It has been a longggggggg time since this Grandma has had to deal with these issues, lol.

Andrea
04-06-2011, 07:27 PM
This has worked with all of my kids and I have six. I learned the tactic from my mother who also had six kids...

The next time he bites, take your index finger and put it in his mouth and poke him behind his bottom teeth on his gums with your fingernail and tell him no biting. If you try it on yourself, there is a tender spot there that hurts a little when it is poked. You have to do it right as soon as they bite. I think the idea is that they learn that their teeth are causing discomfort to others. Again, make sure to tell them no biting when you try this.

I have very strong willed children and there is no amount of time out or taking privileges or toys away that worked to cure the biting but this did. I only had to do that a few times with my biters and they never bit again. It was an easy thing to do wherever we were too. I'm not sure what your limitations are for the foster kids so you'll have to take that into consideration.


Ok, give us your advice on how to handle a toddler who is starting to bite. He got his first write-up at Day care yesterday because he bit a little girl on the fingers. Tonight he was just playing but bit me and then bit Mommy when she came to pick him up.
Being Foster children, we are limited in what kind of punishment we can do.
The Doctor advised to keep a peeled onion handy and stick that in his mouth when he does it. That seems a bit drastic to me!
Any advice on what you do/did with your little ones during this stage????

It has been a longggggggg time since this Grandma has had to deal with these issues, lol.

j_camargo6
04-06-2011, 07:33 PM
Oooh, Andrea! That's a great tip!

britnkaysmemaw2
04-06-2011, 07:38 PM
Thanks Andrea.....that is a great tip. Will let you know if it works on Noah!

elenasworld
04-06-2011, 07:44 PM
oh no Cathy!
the peeled onion was nicer than what my mother did to me...
i bit my brother who is three years older than I am
my mom saw me do it, and bit me back on the arm, not hard, but enough to give me the idea of what it was like
but, I tell you, I never bit anyone again

I am so glad that when i threw one of those metal cookie cutters at his head another time, she didn't throw one back at me --- lol

I would try to work in a time out for something like that -- i think the rule of thumb is one minute/year of age, so it would be two minutes for him

You could try to find some books at the library on biting -- story books, that might be something he could relate too; maybe one of those baby books with faces / expressions so he could see the sad face/hurt face and the happy face...it could help promote at some level that he recognize different emotions.
I think that things like biting and pinching with toddlers happens because they dont have the words yet to express their feelings or frustrations.

Did the daycare have any suggestions? Sometimes they have books there for the parents to check out.

wish I could be more help

ETA -- I love Andrea's method. That sure would be a deterrent
my dd is also strong willed, but at two, she would at least sit on the stair, at four, she started to dictate where she was taking her time out!

britnkaysmemaw2
04-07-2011, 04:03 PM
Liz - I can relate to the strong willed. That is Noah thru and thru! Plus, he is going to be all Boy and have not a fear in the world. Last night he proceeded to climb on top of the stool and jump off when I was busy with Tiana. He liked to give Grandma a heart attack! LOL....he thought it was so funny though, and laughed!
His newest thing to do (other than biting) is to do what my DD calls the Nestea Plunge! He stiffens his body and falls backwards and hits the floor, all the while laughing because he thinks its funny!
We are so afraid he is going to hurt himself!
We do have ourselves to blame for a lot of it, I have to admit! He is the only boy in the family, and at this stage of our lives, we didn't think there would be anymore grandchildren, so his Grandpa spoils him rotten! I have to be the disciplinarian when he is here, cause Grandpa sure won't!
I just pray we make it thru the terrible 2's with him! LOL

donakat
04-07-2011, 06:19 PM
I've had those strong-willed children, too, and a grandchild like that. All I can say is time changes everything. Next week it'll be some other little habit Noah will develop to try your patience. Lots of times that's the whole point, "Let's see how far I can go till Mom/Dad/Grandma/Grandpa gets mad." Just a little way for the kid to gain control and mastery over his environment. I wish you luck and patience.

britnkaysmemaw2
04-07-2011, 06:24 PM
LOL...Thanks Dona....the patience we all need.
Yesterday my DD twisted her ankle and fell down a flight of stairs and is on crutches for 6 weeks. I can now see Noah trying to walk with Mom's crutches!

tweederbug
04-08-2011, 05:03 AM
I understand the strong willed kids. My son has ODD and ADHD. He will push you to your limits just see how far he can push you. With my kids, I bit back, not enough to hurt them but to bring discomfort. It worked with my DD but not with my son, imagine that LOL! What I did and still do, I give him lemon juice. He stopped with the biting after a dose of that. He still gets lemon juice when he says words that he isn't supposed to ... poopy, butt, pee bug. It's alright to say that if it pertains to the bathroom. He will walk around saying it, just to get my attention ...grrrr.

britnkaysmemaw2
04-08-2011, 12:46 PM
Well....Lemon won't work here....he LOVES it! He grabs the lemon wedges out of glasses and chomps right down on them! He is going to be a tough one, I fear!

carolyn17_4
04-09-2011, 09:25 AM
I like the sound of Andrea's advice, wish I had known about that when I dealt with mine biting!!

For me, I got my boy to stop biting by having him bite down on a bar of soap. He kept biting his brother and sister and I said to him, "you like to bite"? He says, "yup!!" So I said, everytime you bite somebody you get to bite this too. (bar of soap). He stopped after the second time, so that worked pretty good for us without too much frustration. :) Good luck with your little guy, hope he figures it out quickly.

Andrea
04-09-2011, 02:07 PM
That's a great idea too!


I like the sound of Andrea's advice, wish I had known about that when I dealt with mine biting!!

For me, I got my boy to stop biting by having him bite down on a bar of soap. He kept biting his brother and sister and I said to him, "you like to bite"? He says, "yup!!" So I said, everytime you bite somebody you get to bite this too. (bar of soap). He stopped after the second time, so that worked pretty good for us without too much frustration. :) Good luck with your little guy, hope he figures it out quickly.

Debra
05-05-2011, 05:33 AM
wow.. that does sound pretty darn effective, Andrea!

triciacurtis
05-09-2011, 04:16 PM
Tried the fingernail behind the teeth method the other day and he didn't like it so much... hoping it works. But it hasn't been long enough to test it. I figure I can play longer than he can, LOL.

Andrea
05-09-2011, 08:37 PM
None of mine have liked it. After a few times, they didn't bite again. I hope it works for you. :)


Tried the fingernail behind the teeth method the other day and he didn't like it so much... hoping it works. But it hasn't been long enough to test it. I figure I can play longer than he can, LOL.